Eliminate Excuses

Hey guys! Happy H U M P day!

I’m continuing with the theme of RECIPES FOR SUCCESS IN 2020 today with another thought from the book, How Women Rise.

Try eliminating blunt excuses like,

“Sorry I was late, my car broke down, my calendar malfunctioned, my dog ate my homework” are an ineffective way to present yourself as someone people can trust and look too. You are adding to an illustration that is painting a picture that you don’t have your act together.

An unadorned, “I’m sorry” is always more effective. Why? It dismisses the negative situation quickly not having people focused on it, so that the conversation can move on to the next subject.

Just as blunt excuses are ineffective, so are subtle excuses.

Subtle excuses make people think that it’s an unalterable aspect of who you are.

“I’m not a morning person… Ugh the winter always makes me late… This month I’m just so disorganized…I can’t keep my mouth shut…”

We feel like it’s being humble and we pat ourselves on the back for being “Self aware” as if it’s taking responsibility for our actions. But what people are hearing is that you’re incapable of change and you actually end up undercutting your ability to let go of behaviours that hold you back if you cling to the self-defeating belief that they are somehow part of your genetic makeup.”

So if something happens and you’re late, you make a mistake, simply apologize and look for a solution personally to ensure that it doesn’t happen again.

XOXO

Ash