Building a life you LOVE!

If you don’t love your life, it’s never too late to start again.

Sometimes it’s easy to find ourselves in a bit of a “rut routine” the rut becomes the routine and we begin to accept it, allowing it, and almost… well, really, choosing it. If you are finding yourself there, it’s never too late to BEGIN again.

STEP ONE
It starts with defining what you’d LOVE your life to look like. Write it down, dream big! We’ve only got one life here on earth so we may as well GO FOR IT.

Okay, you’ve got the beautiful life on paper? Great.

STEP TWO
Now, I want you to write out a separate list for each thing that you want in your life. This list is going to be actions or activities that logically would help you achieve or see those things come to fruition.

STEP THREE

Now I want you to write out everything you usually do in a week currently. Great, done? Now, I want you to cross our everything that DOESN’T help you get what you want, things that are out of line or detracting from what you actually want. Those have to go. (Now if it’s something like laundry, okay we all need to do that, those are actually day to day things that WILL lead to the life we love because I think a life we love all includes wearing CLEAN CLOTHES) So be logical here!

STEP FOUR
Now, we’re going to work on your calendar. Your NEW calendar. Because your everyday life becomes your life. Let’s make sure we start to LOVE our day to day plans. Let’s start pencilling into a week’s routine the activities that we wrote down that will help us achieve the life we want.

NOW…

This is where we have to be committed. It’s up to us to actually push through the tough days and actually DO THIS THING! It’s not always going to be easy, but it’s about longevity and consistency and you’ll start to see the fruits of that life you want!

Maybe you wrote down you want better friendships— it’s going to take more than 5-6 awkward hang outs to all of a sudden have a best friend.

Maybe you wrote down you want to be fit? Three months to really see results, and that’s CONSISTENT working out.

So what I’m saying is give it your all and give it time!

“The way you choose to fill everyday and exert your energy will determine your life’s entire direction. Where you end up next year or in 10 years is determined by the choices you make now! “

— ASH

XOXO

Don't be reluctant to claim your achievements

Hey friends! So our last three blog posts focused on different recipes for success in 2020. Our next focus will be HABITS TO BREAK in 2020! Our first one is our reluctance to claim our own achievements.

Great work doesn’t always speak for itself. If you’re not willing to be your own advocate and fan why would someone else? This doesn’t make you an obnoxious self promoter, it doesn’t have to be portrayed that way. You can be gracefully happy, proud and confident about a job well done and speak to it with appreciation and gratitude not boastfulness.

Sometimes contrasting your refusal to claim credit for your own good work makes you feel “morally superior” to anyone who is actually just comfortable doing so. This is an excuse to stay in your comfort zone instead of finding an appropriate way to actually be expressive and enthusiastic about your achievements. So, instead of having a posture of, shoulder back, chin up, “YES I DID THAT!” you congratulate yourself for being a wonderful human who doesn’t need to toot her own horn & take solace in that when you are passed over for the next promotion or opportunity.

Sometimes we are just uncomfortable when we receive praise, next time try just saying THANK YOU! Rather than deflecting.

“If you don’t find a way to speak about the value of what you’re doing, you send a message that you don’t put much value on it.” — How Women Rise

Think about your WHY. Why you do what you do, and why you want more opportunity, the next promotion or goal you’ve set. And next time you’re about to deflect your value or let it get looked over, allow that WHY to motivate you to speak up.

So don’t be reluctant to claim your achievements— you GO GIRL!

Ash XOXO

"Don't Start a Sentence with..."

Hey there!

Recipes for Success in 2020 C O N T I N U E D!

Never start a sentence with NO | BUT | HOWEVER.

“No. We’ve already tried that way and we saw how that turned out.”

“But what if that information doesn’t come through as planned?”

“However, there’s one thing you forgot.”

You can disagree with someone, and challenge their ideas, but you can do it in a way that will set the conversation up for success.

You see, NO | BUT | HOWEVER are negative qualifiers that we use habitually but don’t realize how they are a direct contradiction to what someone else is saying. You are disregarding someone else’s well thought out position. You may not mean it that way, but when someone has just been vulnerable enough to share a perspective or idea, and it’s met with NO | BUT | HOWEVER you may as well punch them in the gut.

These are verbal “ticks” that can really impact how people see us and approach us both personally and professionally.

So what do we do when we do have a somewhat critical point to make?

1) Try to find something about what the person has said to affirm and bring positivity too.

”Wow that is a great idea….”

”Yes! Thank you for that. Let’s also consider…”

2) Then, make you point without completely disqualifying what the speaker said before you.

This intentionality and thoughtfulness around your communication and speech with really encourage healthy conversation and encourage people to speak up around you! Don’t miss out or shutdown what people around you may have inside to add value! Let’s live openly and thoughtfully with one another!

XOXO

Ash